From the discussion between @Fortiter and me in this question's comments:
Steven, your question invites expressions of personal opinion rather than a definitive answer based upon evidence and expertise. Perhaps you could rephrase it after reading the FAQ at genealogy.stackexchange.com/faq#dontask – Fortiter 4 hours ago
Fortiter - This is an excellent question for this forum. This is something everyone wants to know, this info isn't readily available on the web, and the experts here will likely provide just a few quality answers. – lkessler 1 hour ago
lkessler - If the differences between your excellent answer and that of GeneJ (equally good but very different) are not an example of a "“I would like to participate in a discussion about ______” question, then I have no idea what would be. It would be a great discussion BUT does it fit SE? – Fortiter 54 mins ago
Fortiter - Almost everything is an opinion. Even answers to the "When did my great-grandmother die?" questions are opnions. Further discussion should go to meta. – lkessler 30 mins ago
I hated when StackOverflow closed all the opinion questions last year. They were the most popular ones and they were the ones that attracted me to StackOverflow in the first place.
Now StackOverflow is sanitized. We have a programming problem to solve. We ask it. Someone answers it. I guess that's what's wanted there. But I seldom go there anymore, unless I have a problem to solve.
We get to choose what we want on this site. Do we want only questions about "Here's all my evidence - what is the answer"? Well that's what I'll do then. I'll come here to solve my family mysteries when I get a new one. And I'll go elsewhere to help people on how to do their genealogy.
Look. Stack Exchange says you shouldn't ask "What's the best way" questions, because the answer is an opinion. Well everything in genealogy is an opinion. Even the "conclusion" of what the evidence means is an opinion. You can get 100 answers to one of those. Maybe we shouldn't allow them either.
My personal opinion (Aha! another opinion!) is that any "How to do something" question should be allowed. And the poor poster (who is usually someone new coming here) shouldn't get lambasted with comments saying that's not the way we do things around here.
The answers on "How to do something" will be opinions. But they will be experts giving good ideas based on their expertise.
If the answers start becoming a discussion, then yes, I agree it's gone too far. But until then, can't we just give a little bit of leniency here?
ColeValleyGirl pointed out in a comment that subjective StackOverflow questions were moved to Programmers. If you take a look at the Programmers FAQ, it gives quite clear rules for subjective questions that I think are very reasonable. This is what it says:
What about subjective questions?
Subjective questions are allowed, but subjective does not mean “anything goes”. Please keep it professional at all times. If this is a question you'd be uncomfortable discussing with your colleagues in a work environment, it's probably not appropriate here, either.
All subjective questions are expected to be constructive. How do we define that? Constructive subjective questions …
- inspire answers that explain “why” and “how”.
- tend to have long, not short, answers.
- have a constructive, fair, and impartial tone.
- invite sharing experiences over opinions.
- insist that opinion be backed up with facts and references.
- are more than just mindless social fun.
Questions that do not meet enough of these six guidelines will be closed as "Not Constructive". Please see the Good Subjective, Bad Subjective and Real Questions Have Answers blog posts for more details and examples.
Maybe we should adopt something like this for Genealogy and Family History SE when we finalize our FAQ.